AntiPatterns are useful for clarifying what to avoid and are therefore not OffTopic.
ourself) is practiced by everyone but me. :)
- AlmostTrue. Unfortunately I do that as well.
- Wait, I have been forced by circumstances...
- BlameYourselfFirst. ....
- And rationalization continues...
...SelfDeceit, this fatal weakness of mankind, is the source of half the disorders of human life
Introspect often to mitigate SelfDeceit tendencies
Links between ApathyCalcified and SelfDeceit?
such as birth control, political issues, social injustice, may represent, in part, attempts to fill personal emptiness
I was recently on the receiving end of CriticizeBluntly
in life. I purposefully put away the matter for a few days before reflecting on the comments. If I do so immediately, my defenses would go up and could wind up dismissing all charges. I could go into a Holier
Thou mode and sink into SelfDeceit
without knowing about it.
- Above is a good reason to put away for consideration the comments received for a few more weeks. :)
All considered, SelfDeceit
is not good as it is a DenialOfService
oTheSoul. A person can get by without nourishment only for so long then getting visibly weakened. With M
ilesToGoBeforeISleep, I cannot afford the luxury of SelfDeceit
. I am now getting hungry and yearn for C
Almost SelfDeceit but pragmatic
It may appear that I am providing "justification" for SelfDeceit
here. Having said that, the Churchill quote in "AlmostTrue"
is, on balance, valid.
"Rationalization" aside, if you have to "lie" because of "HigherPrinciples
tStake", you will do a better job if you convince yourself first of what you "need others to buy-in".
starts with SelfDeceit
, it is only human to want to "shield" ourselves from the bad news.
So what are the RulesToLiveBy, in terms of matters relevant to this page?
Probably one way is to make sure that there are frequent and ample opportunities for Introspection. Make it very apparent to yourself about your own self-interests, acknowledge its presence, as well as its "importance".
If you do not survive, you cannot be there promoting higher principles. OTOH, is the current situation that desperate? Are there indeed no other ways to proceed? Or perhaps "waiting" is the better choice for the moment?
In rare instances, people "sacrifice" themselves with survival at stake, believing that others in the community are better suited (such as skills, opportunities) to "carry the torch".
Tough questions and no easy answers.
Reading material and references
Why Good Accountants Do Bad Audits
Just as the straight line is the shortest distance between two points so is honesty the only proper attitude of one person toward another.